I’ve written a lot about what happened to me at my former workplace. It’s a pity because this was originally meant as a place for me to talk about my ideas. But just like everything else in my life, this place has been occupied by everything they did to me and the unwelcomed thoughts I wake up with every morning (or in the middle of the night).
It hurts so much that my abusers have up to now been able to play the victims. How can we live in a world where such a thing is possible? Our system is completely absurd. They are not evil geniuses, they’ve been allowed to do what they do because good people did nothing; because good people chose to believe what was easier rather than what was hard.
At any time since May 24, 2018, they could have been honest and sincere with me and provided me the closure I needed to move on. Instead they made things worse, managed to convince the cops that I deserved to be hurt, and made the hell I was living in all the more difficult.
It’s going to be hard enough to get back to normal but without the closure, without finally being recognized as a victim, I can’t even begin to do the work I need to do.
I wrote about kindness and not being so judgemental recently, and really wasn’t about my former employer. In this case it is but I think a larger lesson to us all might be in how we treat others and what not providing closure does to someone.
It take minutes, or in a very big situation, hours, to be kind to someone and provide them with closure. I think we owe that to other people. Honesty and transparency is an obligation you owe everyone. At least that’s how I feel.
As for me, I’m tired of being made to feel like I was imagining things or that I did anything wrong. I didn’t. I was innocent. I’m a good person and I didn’t deserve to be treated that way by anyone.